Raising a child: Embrace mistakes or brush them off?
Our brain functions similarly to a computer, with a predefined input and a predefined output. It works similarly to a machine learning algorithm in that we must feed what is correct and what is incorrect in order to get good results.
People do not accept their mistakes because of cognitive dissonance. To teach anyone, it is necessary to make them aware of their negative actions and encourage them to accept them. One well-known book, “Mistakes were made but not by me,” provides a brief overview of cognitive dissonance. People do not want to accept their mistakes, and when forced to do so, their hearts begin to race and they begin to explain why it is not their fault; this phenomenon is known as cognitive dissonance.
Children are innocent, and how they are raised will determine who they are as adults. We shouldn’t wait for people to make amends for their errors or bad behavior before taking action. Instead, the parent should inform the student of any errors whenever they occur. This will teach them that mistakes can happen and that it’s okay to accept them. They will begin to understand that mistakes are inevitable because nobody is perfect. Thus, by carefully pointing out errors from the outset, we can help students learn to accept their mistakes in the future as well.
It is frequently necessary to point out errors in order to prevent students from deviating too far from the goal, thereby saving time. There is a set pattern that an examinee should follow when preparing for any exam. Assume a student begins preparing for the exam with untimed exams and continues to do so until the exam date arrives. Of course, with practice, he will take less time to answer questions and his timing accuracy will improve. However, this technique may take a long time to prepare for any exam, and no one has only one test to take in their entire life. As a result, it is critical to point out negative actions by appropriately guiding them so that the next steps are in the right direction, thus preventing them from diverging from the goal.
Only compliments can lead to bad habits. If a parent only gives praise, the child will grow accustomed to receiving only praise in the future. Furthermore, there aren’t always positive people in the world who only sing praises; occasionally, mistakes will be pointed out. Thus not making praise a habit, so that in the future, students don’t feel discouraged when something bad happens, it’s important to make them realize that obstacles might come and despite that, you will do fine.
At the same time, pointing out mistakes should not become a habit because it can permanently harm a student’s mind. A student should not be conscious whenever he is doing something in which he may make a mistake, preventing him from even starting out of fear of failure. This is a very sensitive subject that can have a variety of effects on a child’s mind. We can teach children the wrong by teaching them with love, but it takes a lot of patience. But it is worthwhile because the child will grow into an independent thinker who is not afraid to make mistakes or to take risks for fear of failure. As a result, a tradeoff is required, and both excessive praising and excessive pricking of failures can be disastrous, and small faults should be disregarded.
Many people might believe that calling attention to students’ bad behavior will discourage them from acting in any way, but this is not the case. It should be fair; giving credit for good deeds and acknowledging mistakes are both necessary. A teacher can help students achieve more in less time by preventing them from deviating and preparing them for the future by carefully balancing praise and telling mistakes. So I draw the conclusion that my arguable, negative actions cannot be totally disregarded.
